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See, its not just me!!!
In all seriousness, an engagement ring is one of (if not) the single most important purchases a man will make. WHY NOT CONSULT THE PERSON WHO’S GOING TO BE WEARING IT???
I seem to be in the minority on this in real life but it looks like the statistics are tipped in my favor here.
What do you think ladies? Would you want your man to take you ring shopping??
OMG!!! It's a Wedding! 
I can see it from both sides. But, I do kinda like the old-school approach of it being something he chooses for her. Guess it’s kinda one of those things where he should know/love her well enough to know what she would like, and that she should know/love him enough to accept a token from him as a promise for a lifetime together. I love my engagement ring, and Sorg did a great job of choosing it. He had a little bit of guidance (i.e. I prefer white gold to yellow gold) but if he looked in my jewelry box and were to pay attention to what jewelry I do wear when I wear it, he would know that anyway.
The most expensive piece of jewelry I have is the claddagh Brad got me for Christmas last year which I loooooove!!! LOL I’m just not *that* girl that has expensive jewelry. Sentiment is not lost on me!! I can certainly appreciate the tradition, I think every girl can. But at the same time, my personality is much more of the forward thinker and modern woman.
Of course any woman will LOVE the sentiment more than the ring itself (if she doesn’t, wtf is that guy getting himself into??) but women have fought tooth and nail for equality so why not have a say in what their ring looks like? Hell, some women say forget the ring! They see it as a status symbol more than a symbol of love or a token of commitment.
I’ve been called materialistic and Bridezilla for even having an opinion. LOL [shrug]
Define consulting.
Is it discussing ideas? Or having to see the whole thing?
I’d personally define it as going shopping together.
According to the responses I’ve gotten on Twitter, most guys were way more comfortable just letting her pick the thing out.
Consensus among the girls is that the guy should JUST KNOW.
Sean and I talked about it – I didn’t really do any planning until I had the ring on my finger, although I told him I’d rather be engaged to him than have the rock… But I definitely gave him some suggestions (no round stones for me please!! Side stones are great either on the e-ring or on the band to slip around the engagement diamond, and color isnt crucial but could be nice for the sidestones – my suggestions included garnet and blue topaz I think).
We also went to a few stores to try on rings so he’d know what I liked when it actually on my hand – very valuable! I learned what size range I liked (and what felt far too big) and that no matter how gorgeous an emerald cut with princess sidestones is on other gals (obviously, no colored gems in this scenario) it was NOT pretty on my hand. That cut is meant for slender, long fingers – and mine are not.
One N, you know the rest – based upon my suggestions, his taste and the suggestions of a great jeweler he came up with a far better to g for me than I’d envisioned: white gold, 1.34 carat princess cut (not quuuiite flawless), 0.5 carat trillion cut side stones in tanzanite. Lucky man didn’t even have a clue of my love for all things tanzanite.